recurring theme

apparently, according to the attachment theory, there are three primary attachment styles amongst people, each formulated (and set in stone until death) before a person reaches the age of five:

1) secure - generally at ease with becoming emotionally close, rarely worry about abandonment or rejection.
2) avoidant - uncomfortable and nervous from emotional closeness, often suppress attachment needs as a safety net.
3) anxious-ambivalent - constantly in search of emotional closeness with others, often worries that others do not return same sentiments.